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Gay couple road trip

A Gay-Friendly Road Trip from San Francisco to Seattle

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Vibrant, progressive cities, stunning landscapes, and welcoming communities on the West Coast of the United States are an ideal place for gay couples to explore, to adventure, and to be accepted. This article covers an unforgettable week-long journey from San Francisco to Seattle, specifically for LGBTQ+ travellers.

Experience urban excitement, natural wonders, and romance on this unforgettable journey. From San Francisco’s Castro District to quirky Portland and vibrant Seattle, celebrate love and diversity. Pack your bags, grab your partner, and explore the West Coast’s most gay-friendly destinations

Day 1-2: San Francisco

The LGBTQ+ rights and culture capital of LGBTQ+ rights and culture is where our journey starts, San Francisco. When you arrive in this iconic metropolis you will feel the welcoming atmosphere. This atmosphere has put it on the map as the destination for the gay community for decades. The Castro District is definitely the heart of San Francisco’s gay scene. Here, rainbow flags fly from nearly every storefront and lamppost. Harvey Milk Plaza, named for the pioneering gay rights activist and politician, is where you should begin.

San Francisco, California, USA – August 2019: Castro Theatre building with a rainbow flag on Castro Street in San Francisco. Castro was one of the first gay neighborhoods in the United States

Before going and exploring the neighbourhood, take some time to take in the significance of this place in LGBTQ+ history. Walking down Castro Street, you will notice a plethora of queer-owned businesses. These range from bookstores to cafes, all part of a thriving community. To get all romantic, get to the Golden Gate Bridge. This engineering marvel offers stunning bay and skyline views. It’s perfect for a romantic stroll. Complete your San Francisco trip at Alamo Square, home to the iconic Painted Ladies.

Frances, a quaint restaurant in the Castro, specializes in high end food. As evening falls, it makes for a great place for a romantic dinner. Finish your night with a couple of our neighbourhood’s most popular gay bars, The Café or Badlands. You can dance the night away in a fun, diverse crowd.


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Day 3: Sonoma & Napa Valley

It’s time to slow down and savor the finer things in life with a visit to Sonoma and Napa Valley. Not only are they known for fantastic wines but they are also champions for social justice. Visit their winery during the early hours of the day. Come here to enjoy a tasting flight while learning about the tie between wine-making and LGBTQ+ advocacy. If you want to taste history with modernity, head over to Gundlach Bundschu, California’s oldest family-owned winery. This winery has embraced diversity and inclusion over the past few years. While sipping their famous vintages, you will enjoy beautiful views of the surrounding countryside.

Wine tasting is an exhausting activity. So, after a wine tasting day, allow yourselves to have a couples’ spa at one of the luxurious wellness centres that the region provides. A massage or a bath in mineral-rich hot springs might help you relax from the stresses of regular life. At dusk, enjoy a farm-to-table dinner at Farmhouse Inn, showcasing local flavours. Stay at Napa Discovery Inn, a welcoming spot for LGBTQ+ couples with great dining recommendations.

Day 4-5: Portland

Heading north from wine country, we arrive in quirky, inclusive Portland. Start with a romantic stroll through Washington Park’s blooming Rose Garden. For adventure, drive to Columbia River Gorge for breathtaking hikes and waterfalls.

Back to the city, the Pearl District offers up its art galleries, boutique shops, and trendy restaurants. Powell’s City of Books is the world’s largest independent bookstore, with towering, towering shelves. You don’t want to miss it. You can easily lose yourself for hours here. When the sun sets, Portland’s world-class food scene awakens.

Food carts are a thing of the city’s fame. They serve cuisines from all over the world and for every palate. Visit one of Portland’s LGBTQ-friendly bars like Scandals PDX. Here, you can get craft cocktails in a cozy atmosphere. End your Portland experience with a jaw-dropping drag show at Darcelle XV, one of the oldest continuously running drag venues in the United States. You’ll see the lively and welcoming spirit that makes Portland a real gem for LGBTQ+-friendly travel here.

Day 6: Astoria

Keeping our journey northward, our next stop is the gem of a town, the coastal town of Astoria, Oregon. Visit Fort Stevens State Park’s miles of sandy beaches. Here, you can learn, hike in a lush forest, and look for shipwreck remains that now serve as the face of the park. The best way to see the town and surrounding area is to climb up the Astoria Column. This 125-foot tower allows you to climb to the top for panoramic views of the Columbia River, the Pacific Ocean, and surrounding mountains. This spot is perfect for a romantic moment with your partner. Movie buffs will love a visit to Goonies House. This house became famous in the cult classic film.

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As the day ends, the Cannery Pier Hotel, a luxury waterfront property with inclusive policies and a warm heart, is where the next level begins. This hotel was built on the site of a former fish cannery. It offers accommodations with views of the Columbia River and the beautiful Astoria-Megler Bridge. Enjoy a couples’ massage in the hotel’s spa. Have a romantic dinner at the hotel’s restaurant while watching ships pass by as you eat seafood and other Pacific Northwest specialties. Astoria is a slow-paced, intimate town. It makes for the perfect break in your West Coast adventure to get the two of you back on the same page and back in touch with what coast living is all about.

Day 7: Seattle

The Emerald City: Seattle, an out gay friendly West Coast road trip. Your Seattle adventure should start at the legendary Pike Place Market. Here, shelves are lined with hand-in-hand stalls of fresh produce, artisanal works of crafts, and the famous flying fish. If you are a caffeine junkie, don’t forget to visit the original Starbucks location for a pilgrimage. Move on to the Space Needle, Seattle’s most recognized landmark. We all know that the observation deck has 360-degree views of the city, surrounding mountains, and waterways. It’s a great place to take a photo or for a stolen kiss. To get away for a romantic time, hop on a ferry to Bainbridge Island. The 35-minute ride across Elliott Bay offers a chance to see a seal and, if you’re lucky, an orca. It also provides a great view of the Seattle skyline.


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Back to the City

Afterward, take a boat back to the city. Then, you can explore charming shops, galleries, and wineries on the island. Capitol Hill, Seattle’s bohemian gay neighborhood, should not be missed. Rainbows and pride flags tell you that you have stepped into one of the most LGBTQ+-friendly areas in the country. This area offers an array of cafes, boutiques, and bars for the queer community. Tilikum Place Café is excellent for a romantic dinner. It is known for its wonderful atmosphere and delicious local foods. You’ll be getting left to yourselves. With the evening approaching, this will be a cozy time with your loved one. Or, an even more LGBTQ+-friendly option, the Pelican Bay Restaurant offers waterfront dining with great views of Elliott Bay.

To leave your West Coast, get to Seattle’s lively gay nightlife. There is R Place which has multiple floors of entertainment. Enjoy drag shows, dancing, and Unicorn with its whimsical atmosphere. Here, creative cocktails with carnival-themed decor are served.


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Conclusion

Along the way from San Francisco to Seattle, we hope this gay-friendly West Coast road trip has whet your appetite. LGBTQ+ travelers have a lot to look forward to during their travels in this beautiful area. In San Francisco’s Castro District, Portland, Astoria on the coast, and Seattle, each destination has something special. Each place offers its own cultural, natural, and LGBTQ+-friendly attractions. It’s not just a vacation; this road trip is a celebration of love, diversity, and freedom. Feel free to be who you are in some of the most accepting and beautiful places in the United States. Trails, urban excitement, or natural wonders … the West Coast is where you can make lasting memories. Whether with family, friends, or a date, it’s all yours to explore.

For more inspiration on LGBTQ+-friendly travel destinations, explore other articles on Gay Couple Getaway. Our website is dedicated to helping gay couples discover welcoming destinations and unforgettable experiences around the world. Remember, the process is just as important as the destination. Embrace every second of your West Coast trip with an open mind and a spirit of exploration.

Author: Steve

Steve is a UK based LGBTQ travel blogger dedicated to sharing travel experiences, tips and insights for his community. From destination guides to travel tips, he curates essential resources for gay couples and queer families.

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